“When you’re essentially told you have a demon child, you feel like you’ve failed yourself and your kid,”
As I sat in Dr. Mohler’s studio the other day he mentioned that one of his most popular shows that he’d done in the past–spanking. Of course, I had an idea for a post, which quickly flashed, through my mind. But I also quickly put it away. I wouldn’t steal controversy.
But much to my surprise this morning I picked up USA Today and glanced at one of the front page articles: “Out-of-line preschoolers increasingly face expulsion.”
My first thoughts were “who is the one who is supposed to keep kids in line? The teachers? Are they the ones who must put up with kicking, fighting, screaming, biting and the six-year-old and his dirty underpants? Are parents dumping their kids off expecting the teachers to take their jobs as parents while the mom and dad head off to make money to pay for three cars and a million-dollar home?
Today, 7 our of every 1000 preschoolers are expelled for not sharing, acts of anger, throwing mulch, running ahead of the group, and other instances of blatant disobedience. Is this treatment too harsh for preschoolers?
“This is an issue that cuts across (demographic) settings,” Walter Gillian says regarding expelled children, “We’re talking about the educational equivalent of capital punishment being handed down to the very young.”
So what’s the problem? How can we reduce the amount of children expelled on a regular basis? Could the problem be that we do not have enough teachers in the classroom? Or could it be poor parenting?
“When you’re essentially told you have a demon child, you feel like you’ve failed yourself and your kid,” says Claire Lerner, director of parent education at the non-profit group Zero to Three.
Maybe they ought to feel that way if the discipline of the child has been neglected. I’m not going to rush in right here a push for one type of discipline technique or anything (though the counting “One…two…three” is the worst technique ever invented), but I will support obedience. That’s basic. Discipline for obedience.
Yes, I was spanked, and I can tell you that I do not remember that much about it (no, my parents are not forcing nor telling me to put this in the post). I believe I’m better because of spanking. It’s not necessarily the most pleasant thing in the world, but it’s worked for generations, and if used correctly, is a great tool in parenting.
But when we have parents who give their children far too many choices, we have serious issues. I’ve seen at associate with kids who’ve been raised with too many choices of what they wanted for breakfast and what they wanted to wear to school. They are never ordered to do anything. The parents may attempt to negotiate with them, but will basically allow them whatever they want.
Most of these kids are the “monsters” expelled from school because they think only of themselves, and may “behave” only if they get their way or it will be of benefit to them. How in the world will these children be able to relate and act properly in society when they have never learned to obey and follow orders?
For some though, it may be special needs, and I understand that. Betsy Tores said that they are “seeing kids now from fractured families with no ability to bond.”
Every issue really boils down to the base of society–the family. When that breaks down, everything else follows, and we’re seeing the repercussions.
The family: Dad, Mom, and kids. It’s a fact of life that’s getting torn apart–and we as a society are reaping the consequences in the government, in our schools, and in every place we go.
Let’s pray that we return to the foundation of all society.