Since the beginning of time we have seen and observed that Satan particularly hates everything that has been established by God. He is out to destroy all boundaries, rules, and regulations by lying to each and every one of us. His lie is one where boundaries are bad, the rules are too restrictive, and the regulations just too much. Yet these guidelines that have been established by God are for your good. His plan is a perfect plan.
At the beginning of creation, we see Adam and Eve, the perfect couple, living out their proper roles correctly and showing us God’s perfect plan for men and women. Adam was the leader, accountable to God. Eve was Adam’s perfect companion, and spiritual equal. But she was his physical helper, not his physical equal. This is clearly seen in Genesis and will be discussed in more detail later on in the series.
Satan did not want this perfect plan put into place by God (try saying that five times fast), and attacked one of his favorite targets – the family. We see very early on that he approaches Eve first, disregarding God’s design – Adam was the leader, not Eve.
“She persuaded…Adam to commit the same sin, thereby making Satan’s attack on Adam’s hardship a success.” (MacArthur, pg. 21)
John MacArthur points out that not only did Eve break the command to not eat the forbidden fruit, but she also disobeyed by failing to consult Adam, the leader, about this temptation. Adam in turn sinned in the same way by “succumbing to Eve’s usurpation of his leadership.”
Since this twisting of God’s plan, marriage has never been the same. The result of their sin came in four ways: death, pain in childbearing, strenuous work, and strife in marriage.
“I believe [the strife] aspect of the curse predicts marital strife brought on by a husband’s oppressive rule over he wife,” says MacArthur, “and a wife’s desire to dominate and lead their relationship.”
Interestingly enough, MacArthur points out that the word “desire” mentioned in Genesis 3:16 (“Your desire shall be for your husband”) is the same word used later on when God tells Cain that “Sin desires to control you.” Genesis 3:16 could be translated “Your desire will be to control your husband, but he will rule over you.”
Henceforth, feminism and male chauvinism were born – two unredeemed and unregenerate beings “self-preoccupied and self-serving” being placed together. Without Christ and the Holy Spirit – without an admittance of sin and repentance of that sin, along with faith in Christ, no relationship will be restored to it’s original order and harmony.